By Lisa Marchant

If you have a decision to make, don’t let someone else make it for you. Don't hand over your decision to someone else, just becuase you are having uncertainty and looking for a quick answer. You may think this will make the things easier, but what it really does is set you up for disappointment. I am not saying don’t listen to advice or suggestions, I’m just saying that your decision must come from you, from your heart, that is the only way you will know it is the right one.

For example, have you ever had a decision to make and you didn't know what to do? Of course, we all have. So what do you do? You ask 5 different friends for advice and you get 5 different answers? Now you feel more confused than ever! That’s because people can only give advice based on their life experience and what they would do in your situation. But they are not you. And while they usually have nothing but good intentions, they cannot possibly know what is best for you. When someone has your best interest at heart, they will help you figure things out for yourself. That may come in the form of conversation, or questions, or presenting different scenarios to help you see all the options. But when it comes down to it, you are the only one who can determine what is right for you.

When you have a big decision to make and you don’t know what to do, you feel lost or confused, it’s a good time to stop. Before you start going to everyone you know, reading books and trolling the web or Instagram, just stop. Instead, be still, reflect, write, listen to music, meditate, or take a walk in nature and ask your inner guide to assist you. Your soul knows the asnswer and what to do. It knows what makes you happy and how to deliver it to you. There is nothing too big for it to handle. Your answer may not come instantly, but it will come. Set aside time daily to tune in to your higher self and ask it your question. Your answer could come in many forms, either from a thought or feeling, your spiritual guides, or even through another person. Have you ever had the experience where you were walking down the street and you heard strangers having a conversation, and something they said was exactly what you needed to hear? Boom! How obvious was that.

What you must remember is that you have the ability to make the right decisions. As long as you make decisions from your heart, you can rest assured that they will support your highest good and happiness. I know that it is easy to doubt yourself sometimes, but stop that. Don’t look outside yourself. You have all the wisdom you need within you. Let your decsions come from a place of love, love for yourself and your happiness. Don’t let fear decide, and don’t settle for less than what you want and deserve. The universe would not want that for you, and you shouldn’t either.

If you doubt that you can have what you want, that is a belief to kick. Don’t worry, you got this. We all get off track sometimes. Just get back on. You can change your beliefs and perceptions, getting rid of what no longer serves you, making room for what does.

This takes conscious effort on your part and daily mindfulness. Don’t let your thoughts and emotions run on autopilot. We have been raised to believe that we don’t have the power to change the way we think, or to change our life, but we certainly do. We have the power to create whatever we want.

You can slowly change your beliefs by training your mind. Yes, your mind is a muscle and it can be trained just like any other muscle in your body. You can train your mind to consciously focus on what you want. You can train it to see life in a positive and empowering way. You can choose to believe that good things are always happening to you, that you are blessed, you are powerful and you are abundant. Life is always working out for you and the universe supports you. This will completely shift your perspective of yourself and your reality. If you want your life to change, you must first make the changes within.

If you are wondering where to start, gratitude is one of the fastest and easiest ways to achieve this. By focusing on all of the blessings in your life, you are putting your attention on good things and this creates really good feelings. This will raise your energy and vibration and good things will continue to flow into your life. This flow of good things, will confirm the abundance that is always surrounding you and available to you. Once you are in this flow, it will feel like magic. The things you desire, will show up with ease.

Joy, abundance and love is our natural state. Do you believe this? If not, maybe it is time to examine your beliefs about yourself and life. How would your life change if you did believe this was true? I can promise you it is.

To contact Lisa Marchant
Lisa@alkamye.com